When communicating with someone dealing with an alcohol problem, sensitivity and support are key. Here are some phrases and types of comments to avoid: 1. "Just stop drinking." Addiction is not simply about willpower and can't usually be resolved by simply deciding to stop. This comment can seem dismissive of the person's struggle.

1. "You’re just being selfish." Addiction is a disease, not a choice or a moral failing. Labeling someone as selfish does not acknowledge the complexity of their condition.
2. "You don’t look like an alcoholic." Addiction can affect anyone, regardless of how they appear externally. This statement can perpetuate harmful stereotypes about addiction.
3. "Everyone drinks; it’s not a big deal." Minimizing the impact of drinking can be harmful. What might not be a big deal for one person can be devastating for another.
4. "Why can’t you control yourself?" Asking this can imply that their illness is a matter of control or discipline, which oversimplifies the nature of addiction.
5. "I’m sure you can have just one drink." Encouraging someone with alcohol dependence to drink even moderately can trigger a relapse.
6. "But you used to have so much fun when you drank!" This can romanticize the person's past unhealthy behavior and undermine their decision to seek a healthier lifestyle. Instead of these, offer compassion, listen non-judgmentally, and encourage them to talk about their feelings and experiences. Express your support and consider asking how you can help them in their recovery journey.